Richard L. Evans
But fortunately for us and for all men, it has not been given unto us to judge, nor to execute, nor to measure out the days and the years of men. We may be most grateful that such matters belong to the Lord God our Father, who sees things past and things to come. And, we may be grateful for the assurance that there is plan and purpose in this world, and in our own lives.
With our limited understanding, often we do not agree with the time and the place and the manner in which men come and go. We see many live and prosper, who, according to our way of thinking may not deserve to do either. We see many die, who, in our judgment, have earned the right to live and whose presence among us is sorely needed. And if, with our limited perspective and understanding, we were called upon to give an explanation of the pattern of life and death as it daily takes shape before our eyes, we might be led to conclude that in it all there is lack of purpose, lack of justice, lack of consistency.
The ever-present expectancy of death is never far removed from any of us whether we realize it or not. None of us can avoid it. It comes alike to the great and to the unknown to the righteous and to the unrighteous. Wherein we differ is not in our ability to avert it, but in the preparedness with which we meet it. At such times some question the judgments of God. Some find bitterness because of the circumstances and because of the seeming untimeliness of death.
Literally, no man ever sees himself as others see him. No photograph or reflection ever gives us the same slant on ourselves that others see. It has often been proved on the witness stand that no two people ever see the same accident precisely the same way. We see through different eyes and from different angles. But if we could see things as other people see them, we could come closer to knowing why they do what they do and why they say what they say.
May I make two citations from the words of a discerning editorial writer, not one of my faith, but one of much faith 'If we neglect the divine ... and give ourselves over wholly to the human,' he said, 'we may certainly count upon nothing but the triumph of pessimism.... True optimism must rest upon a calm, unshakable faith in eternal life and in the unlimited goodness of him who gives it.'
Marriage requires the giving and keeping of confidences, the sharing of thoughts and feelings, respect and understanding always, marriage requires humility the humility to repent, the humility to forgive. Marriage requires flexibility (to give and take) and firmness not to compromise principles. And a wise and moderate sense of humor. Both need to be pulling together in the same direction.