Nowadays not even a suicide kills himself in desperation. Before taking the step he deliberates so long and so carefully that he literally chokes with thought. It is even questionable whether he ought to be called a suicide, since it is really thought which takes his life. He does not die with deliberation but from deliberation.
I am willing to accept thoughts I read when I have had similar ones myself. I am more willing to accept my own thoughts than those I read. Yet, having a new thought is not an action intended in advance we don't set ourselves to have that specific new thought. If our own thoughts just 'come to us' unbidden, why should we be less receptive to ones that come through reading Perhaps because we spontaneously have only those thoughts to which we are already receptive. This may lead me to miss out on learning from those who can teach me most, those who think in a way completely different from mine. Unfortunately however, my trust in them cannot grow in the way described, so I continue to read them from an adversary stance.